What do you want in life? I mean, I have several things that I know I won’t, and you’re likely reading these articles and in some way got here today to see this because you probably have something that you want too that you dream about, that you wish for.
5 Ways to Get What You Want in Life
I mean, you and I are very much alike, and in this article, I’m going to give you five ways that you can move toward actually achieving those goals and seeing those dreams through. Maybe you want to leave your job or start a side business, make more money, perhaps you want to lose some weight, be less stressed, and live a healthier, happier life.
How is that going to change things?
What are you going to unlock as a result of making that money or starting that business or losing that weight or whatever it is? So you got to go a few levels deeper to understand at the root why you want to do those things. So I want a little thought experiment with you right now to help you think about what these things might be because you know a lot of times I ask, and it’s not easy to come up with, but this exercise will help you. It’s called the airport test, something I included in my book Will It Fly and I’m just going to share this with you right now.
So could you think about that? Five years from now, you say that life is fantastic. What would make you say that? What would be a part of your life, or how would things be for you to tell your friend that it couldn’t get any better? On that sheet of paper underneath each label that you included, I want you to relate it to that label, start bullet points listing all the things that you would imagine are happening in your life at that time compared to those things. And this sheet of paper becomes your guide moving forward.
Something that you can determine whether or not when you have a decision to make is this something that aligns with what I wrote down on this sheet? So it becomes an incredible tool for you as you make decisions because one of the hardest things, as you go through life, is to say no to something or say yes to the right things, and this sheet of paper can help you do that. Now that you defined what those things are that you are striving toward,
Let’s talk about the five things you could do to give yourself the best chance to achieve those goals.
1 Fear of Failure
Number one, and that’s dealing with this thing that happens when you try something new or do something different, and that’s the fear of failure.
Stephen Pressfield, the author of The War of Art, calls this the resistance. Something that always seems to push back when you’re trying something new, and it’s widespread, everybody goes through this no matter what. When I built my business, I felt it when I started podcasting and getting on video, and I thought it when I began speaking on stage.
But what Pressfield talks about is the fact that this fear is okay to have, and it’s a sign that what it is that you are fearing is essential. It wouldn’t matter to you if you didn’t experience that fear. Something is likely impressive always on the other end of it, and I found that to be true.
2. Relationships Matter
The fact that relationships matter so much. And I’m not just talking about relationships like with a partner or a spouse or your close friends. However, those are important. I wouldn’t be where I’m at today without the support of my wife, who was my fiancee back when I had gotten laid off from architecture. Without her and her help and believing in me, I mean, I wouldn’t be here today and running a multi-million dollar business.
So those kinds of relationships are crucial—people who can support you in your life. But links are also critical in this way. Every single fantastic opportunity that I’ve ever had has happened due to the people I’ve connected with. From my first time speaking on stage, I met Philip Taylor over at FinCon when I spoke in 2011 in Illinois. To an opportunity to work in Hollywood and do social media for an independent movie. Which was always a dream of mine to be a part of Hollywood in that way just for fun.
3. Applying On Focus
Alright, number three, this is a widespread problem, especially for entrepreneurs. Still, I think this is something all of us humans go through, and that is a lack of focus, especially in today’s world where our attention is being pulled in every which way as a result of social media and ads and everything just making noise, right? It’s hard to focus, and yes, even though you might have defined precisely what you want, other external forces are pulling you away from that.
Sometimes those are self-imposed forces that you get too excited about all these new things and new opportunities. The hardest things to do is to say no to a unique opportunity, so you can say yes to what you initially decided to do. To grow, to get closer to these aspirations and goals, you need to commit to doing them, to honor the time that you allow yourself to work toward getting those things, and to learn how to say no to people that might stop you from going to where you want to go.
4. Taking Action
Number four, this is also along the same lines as you know as being distracted about a bunch of things. You know I see a lot of you have, and this is me too, we all have great intentions to learn as much as we can. We want to grow, explore new things, learn by reading books and listening to podcasts and watching videos and stuff like that, but a lot of us learn too much and don’t allow ourselves time to implement.
We become obsessed with learning, almost addicted to learning, practically sometimes as an excuse to stop actually or not even ever start taking action. So I learned this tip from a guy named Jeremy Frandsen, who helped me out when it came to managing my learning processes, and that is something he called just-in-time learning, and this can be life-changing. That is only to allow yourself to learn about things that are related to the next task at hand.
So number one, you need to know what it is you’re working on next, what that next priority is, but then only allow yourself to consume content that is only going to help you achieve that next milestone related to your next task or goal. This is huge because now there’s only a limited number of things that you need before you can then take action to complete that goal and then unlock the next phase, where then you can start the learning process again to work on that upcoming task.
5. Believe in Yourself
number five, some people call this a law of attraction or the secret. I call it common sense. And that is, you have to believe that you can achieve these things. It was Henry Ford who said, “Whether you think you can or can’t, you’re right.” This is true because if you don’t believe you can do it, if you don’t think you can do it, you aren’t going to take the actions required to follow through and make things happen.
Many of us believe that we can’t do something because we don’t know how to do it, and those things are separate, not accurate. Although you might not know how to do something, you can and should believe that you can do it. You’re, you don’t know how to do it yet, so what do you do? You get connected with the right people, learn the right things, bust through that failure, and make it happen. So although you might not believe that you can do something, you have to. You don’t have to know how to do it right now, but belief in yourself to figure it out. And that my friends are how you get what you want.
You may not be able to get it right away, but as long as you believe and work toward those things, and you’re patient, you know you have a hustle, right? You gotta hustle, and as GaryVee says, “You gotta micro hustle on those next tasks, “but you got to be macro patient for those results.” In due time with all these things in place, you can get it. You can get it. So hey, I hope you enjoyed this video. I don’t often do these sorts of more emotional mindset things, but they’re so important, related to whatever you want.
It would help if you didn’t start working on something with all the content that I have and like doing the tasks and hustling on the goals without knowing why you’re doing them in the first place and what you’re working toward. So I’d love to hear from you before you go. If you know how to answer this question if you’ve done the exercise or you already know this, what’s your answer to this? What do you want? What do you want? In exchange for your response to that question, I tried to answer that question for you too.
The rest of my biography will be about my life goals and aspirations, how I became an agent in changing education by having entrepreneurship become a part of the regular curriculum in schools. I believe entrepreneurship gives you the life skills that you need to succeed, no matter what you do. Whether you become an entrepreneur, you become successful in life when you learn the skills that entrepreneurship teaches you.
I’ve seen it because I have two kids who go to a school and they teach in a very entrepreneurial way, and man it makes a world of difference to learn these skills early on, and I want to be known for that, and that’s what I feel like this platform here becomes a launching pad to do. So yeah, that’s what I want to do, and I want to become known for that. I’m building the right relationships right now, and I’m making the right moves. I fear because this is a big task at hand, but I’m dedicated to it, and I believe it can happen,
so that’s me looking forward to hearing from you. Thank you so much. If you enjoyed this article, we’ve got a lot more stuff your way to help you build a business that can help you make more money, save more time, and, most importantly, help more people too. So I’m here for you, thank you guys so much, and I’ll see you in the next article, cheers.